Friday, January 29, 2010

Asking Yourself a Better Question

If you are feeling stuck, confused or just plain clueless about what is happening in your life, you might want to pay attention to the questions you are asking yourself. If you are not getting the answers you are looking for, the problem may be that you need to be asking different questions.

The quality of an answer is directly related to the quality of the question you ask. Your mind holds all the knowledge and wisdom that is you; all your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, patterns and experiences. When you ask a question of yourself, your mind immediately goes to work finding the answer.

If I ask questions such as “Why can’t I ever get what I want?” or “Why am I always struggling?” your mind will search through your entire databank of thoughts and beliefs to find the answer. It will pull open the file drawer marked “What’s Wrong with Me?” and present you with every past experience, person, thought, or feeling that explains why you never get what you want and why you are always struggling. We then believe that is our truth, our reality…and we stay stuck, struggling and confused.

The good news is the same process applies when you ask questions such as “Why is it that life is so easy for me?” or “How can I have more of what I want?” Your mind searches through your databank and opens the file drawer marked “Why You are Amazing” and it will present you with every past experience, person, thought, or feeling that explains why you are so amazing and your life works.

And the mind gets even more interesting! Your questions control what you focus on. What you focus on you feel. How you feel influences your thoughts and your thoughts create the world you see around you. Questions are powerful! Questions can either move you towards your heart’s desires or they can leave you stuck in an endless loop that gets you nowhere.

What would your life be like if you asked questions that enhanced your life and engaged you in the adventure that is life?