February is the month focused on heart, on loveSo what better month than to celebrate saying Yes! to your heart’s desires!

How many times a day do your thoughts contain the words ‘no, not, can’t, won’t, unable, no way?’ More often than not, I would venture to say. Take a few moments to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and tune into your internal experience. Pay attention to your thoughts, images and feelings. How much No! is running through them?

Our fears will cause us to say no to what we want. Our beliefs about our ‘not enoughness’, our lack of self-worth, self-confidence, self-love cause us to say No to what we want. Yes, there are times when it is in our best interest to say no. And there are days and situations where it is easy to say Yes. This Challenge of saying Yes! is about honoring your true nature, your true values, and your true hopes, dreams, wishes & desires. It is about saying Yes! to yourself—to what YOU want. Not what you think is ‘right’. Not to please another. But to please yourself.

Many of us have a streak of co-dependence running through our brain, so we say yes, even when we’d rather not. This is just another way of saying No to yourself. When you say yes to something you don’t want to do or because you think it will make another happy or because you are too afraid to say no, the word yes may be coming out of your mouth, but you are, in reality, saying No to yourself. Your body responds to the ‘no’ and that feeling you get when you’ve said no against your values. So it really is a No, in yes clothing isn’t it?

This Challenge of saying Yes! to your life is about saying Yes! to all those hopes, dreams, wishes & desires that lie within your heart. It is about saying Yes! to Life as YOU want to live it. In learning to say Yes! to yourself, you are creating right within your very cells new outcomes in your life. When you say Yes! to what you value—your life transforms itself, wraps itself around this new way of being in the world.

Think of something you really want to say Yes! to. Close your eyes and allow that thought to flow through your body. Notice what it feels like to say Yes! to a dream or a desire.
Notice how your body feels alive…or does it feel fearful? Just notice….you are simply gathering information for your commands. What happens when you say Yes! to yourself?

If your body feels alive—you can command for MORE of that aliveness in your life. If your body goes into negative, fearful thinking—what do you want instead of that? You command for those new outcomes.

The greatest gift you can give to your family and to the world is to learn to follow your heart and say Yes! to your life.

What are you saying Yes! to today?

Asking Yourself a Better Question

If you are feeling stuck, confused or just plain clueless about what is happening in your life, you might want to pay attention to the questions you are asking yourself. If you are not getting the answers you are looking for, the problem may be that you need to be asking different questions.

The quality of an answer is directly related to the quality of the question you ask. Your mind holds all the knowledge and wisdom that is you; all your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, patterns and experiences. When you ask a question of yourself, your mind immediately goes to work finding the answer.

If I ask questions such as “Why can’t I ever get what I want?” or “Why am I always struggling?” your mind will search through your entire databank of thoughts and beliefs to find the answer. It will pull open the file drawer marked “What’s Wrong with Me?” and present you with every past experience, person, thought, or feeling that explains why you never get what you want and why you are always struggling. We then believe that is our truth, our reality…and we stay stuck, struggling and confused.

The good news is the same process applies when you ask questions such as “Why is it that life is so easy for me?” or “How can I have more of what I want?” Your mind searches through your databank and opens the file drawer marked “Why You are Amazing” and it will present you with every past experience, person, thought, or feeling that explains why you are so amazing and your life works.

And the mind gets even more interesting! Your questions control what you focus on. What you focus on you feel. How you feel influences your thoughts and your thoughts create the world you see around you. Questions are powerful! Questions can either move you towards your heart’s desires or they can leave you stuck in an endless loop that gets you nowhere.

What would your life be like if you asked questions that enhanced your life and engaged you in the adventure that is life?